On Thu, Aug 9, 2018 at 2:13 AM, MZMcBride <z(a)mzmcbride.com> wrote:
Are you sure about that? I think the Code of Conduct
Committee _is_
arguing that it's the use of the word "fuck" that was problematic here. If
I had written "Why did you do that?!" instead of "What the fuck.", do
you
think I would have had my Phabricator account disabled for a week?
As Alex asks on this mailing list: is using the abbreviated "wtf" form now
considered a formal offense in tasks and commits? I genuinely do not know.
The main problem here that needs to be solved is communicating what
the problem was in a manner that is clear to the parties whom the CoC
committee seeks to deter. A one-week ban is not going to help
anything if the object of the ban doesn't understand what about his
behavior elicited the ban.
From my experience in this type of thing, some people
don't understand
what is meant by non-constructive forms of communication, and
don't
know what types of statements will cause the person they're speaking
to to be upset and angry, nor how to rephrase them in a constructive
fashion. This is something that takes quite a lot of practice, and
that fact might not be apparent to those who are naturally more
sensitive. It's also something that comes naturally to someone who's
in a good mood and favorably disposed to the one they're speaking to,
and can be very difficult for the same person when he's angry.
Perhaps a member of the CoC committee should go over the scenario with
MZMcBride and discuss with him what alternative ways he should have
taken to address the problem, and what exactly the problem was with
how he did it.