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actionforum(a)comcast.net wrote:
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I think it's important to note that baiting
users into making personal
attacks is even worse than the personal attacks that ensue, however.
-Snowspinner
Abusers often blame the victim. Sadly, sometimes the victims believe them.
-- Silverback
Sorry, I'm a little dense today. Please spell out the point you are
trying to make.
The idea of name callers blaming the victim for "baiting" them is analogous to
spousal abusers who claim the spouse "egged them on", "was asking for
it" or committed some other stupid oversight or offense. The spousal abuse victim,
often will defend the abuser claiming it was their fault, they weren't perfect in some
way.
Of course, namecallers think their victims deserved it, egged them on, baited them, or was
being unreasonable, or refused to acknowledge that the namecaller was right.
Somehow, just as a lot of people manage to avoid abusing their spouses, a lot of people
refrain from namecalling. The difference is more in the abuser or namecaller than in
the victim or provocature.
-- Silverback
-- Silverback