Daniel R. Tobias wrote:
On 20 Oct 2007 at 20:48:48 -0700, "Steven
Walling"
<steven.walling(a)gmail.com> wrote:
For a long time,
civility and WikiLove have been rhetoric without any force behind them, or
at least the force of a block. Perhaps it's time for admins to step up to
the plate more when it comes to trolls who dance around the letter of the
law to stick around.
Your first impression makes more sense to me. Love isn't something
you can gain by force or threat of it. Fear, yes, and maybe
compliance, but not love.
Well, that's not precisely true.
I agree you can't force people to be loving. But force is sometimes
necessary to create a space where people can build trust, which is a
cornerstone of a loving community.
It's tricky, though. People tend to give what they get, so being tough
can rebound on you. Especially if you're in a rush. Force misapplied or
poorly explained can quickly undermine the trust you're looking to create.
William
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William Pietri <william(a)scissor.com>